Spontaneity. It is a concept that many of us approach with apprehension. But spontaneity can lead to adventures which enable us to grow as individuals. This in turn can elicit a host of further benefits, most notably a greater confidence in making life decisions: from relationships to our careers.
I try to find that balance between rationality, spontaneity and being sensible. The latter can be the least attractive – particularly when the matter at hand is fun…freeing…or free(!) – and the former can dictate whether spontaneity is, or is not, the best idea in a given set of circumstances. Recklessness and abandonment of commitments can sometimes feel like the greatest idea in the short term, but inevitable repercussions may later lead to regret.
But then, how do we act spontaneously if our minds are expected to adjudicate on their own fun? What is the time frame for making a spontaneous decision?
I think it depends on the gravity of the choice at hand. There is a marked difference between making a split second decision between purchasing a Twix whilst waiting at the supermarket checkout and booking a last minute holiday in Vegas (note: a shotgun wedding is a whole other issue again).
I have based my life around taking chances. I don’t settle in life, and for that I have no regrets. Sometimes I make decisions that seem good at the time but don’t pan out so well in the long term. Hurt, reticence and short-lived despair can arise from such risks, but I also believe that the best things in life arise from a small – or big – leap of faith.
So the next time someone asks if you want a last-minute drink after work, say yes. Got a good feeling about tonight’s Lotto? Buy that ticket. And if a loved one suggests a spontaneous weekend away, just go. If you have the opportunity and are lucky to have some time to spare, seize that chance and live your life to the full.